I believe in healthy, stable, mutually fulfilling relationships regardless of whether they conform to typical social norms or not. Ethically non-monogamous, kink and BDSM based, a-sexual and demisexual relationships all have the potential to be healthy and rewarding. The key is to have everyone involved be ready and willing to put in the necessary work to look at their own issues and learn to communicate, listen and grow together.

 

Polyamory, poly fidelity, swingers, master/slave and any other relationships that don’t fall into the hetero-normative categories have the same value as monogamous relationships. Regardless of the type of relationship everyone wants to be loved, seen, heard and valued within their relationship. My place as a couple’s therapist is to educate, guide and coach those involved to communicate, support and understand each other. My ultimate goal is to help my clients develop skills and make changes that allow them to deal with the challenges of life without me.

 

I have spent extensive time and energy throughout my life gathering information and educating myself about human sexuality, relationships and alternative lifestyles. I am happy to pass on the knowledge and tools that will allow my clients to improve their daily relationship functioning. Sometimes you’ve tried everything you know of to make things better and have run out of ideas. That’s when it may be best to bring in an external non-involved third party to help.

 

In the last few years, I focused on learning about the Gottman approach to relationship therapy. John and Julie Gottman have dedicated their lives to studying healthy relationships and developing ways for therapists to help couples word towards mutually beneficial, strong supportive relationships. I take on that same approach and make these techniques accessible to all couples including those in alternative or atypical relationships.